Finding Love – Oat Anirut

I don’t really show my feelings in real life, so I don’t often find love that way. I feel more comfortable with friendships because when I fall in love, I act weird and don’t know what to do. I don’t like that version of myself. That’s why I try to think of people around me as friends first.

I fall in love easily, and I don’t want that to affect my judgment. I don’t want to be biased and overlook important things. I also don’t want someone to take advantage of me just because I like them. That’s why I take a long time to check my own feelings before telling someone. Instead of confessing directly, I observe them from a distance to see if they have any weaknesses I can’t accept like lacking kindness in certain situations.

However, when using dating apps, I can decide faster. Maybe because I can see their profile first. But even after matching, I still need to chat and ask more questions to see if their profile is true. When we meet in real life, I check if they are different from their profile and if they have qualities I can accept.

For a long-term relationship, I care about:
✔ Can we accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses and grow together?
✔ Can they take care of themselves, or do they just want to rely on others?
✔ Do they respect people from different backgrounds and financial situations?
✔ How do they handle conflicts? Do they explain calmly, or just get angry and say, “You should know this already”? I prefer someone who explains things with patience, like a teacher helping a student.

Right now, I’m very happy with my relationship. We have similar thoughts and values. It’s better than anything I had before. I don’t feel like searching for something better anymore. 😊



Comments

  1. Erina YokobeMarch 24, 2025 at 2:49 AM

    Regarding the 4 points that you care for long-term relationship, I also think it's important to accept both each other's strengths and weaknesses. It's essential to deeply understanding and acknowledge each other to build a lasting relationship.

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    1. Oat AnirutMarch 24, 2025 at 8:10 PM

      Thank you, Erina! I completely agree accepting each other's strengths and weaknesses is essential for a lasting relationship. If we take good care of ourselves and love ourselves enough, it becomes much easier to build a strong connection with others.

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  2. Noriko KinoshitaMarch 24, 2025 at 2:52 AM

    I'm glad to hear that you are satisfied with your relationship! Have you ever tried using a dating app?

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    1. Oat AnirutMarch 24, 2025 at 8:11 PM

      Thanks for your comment! Yes, I'm happy with my relationship. I believe that when we love and take care of ourselves, love from others comes more naturally. As for dating apps, I’ve tried them before, but I still prefer meeting people naturally.

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  3. Miyu ImazakiMarch 25, 2025 at 4:34 AM

    Cool perspective! I had a negative image of using dating apps, but after reading your blog, I feel like I could give it a try.

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    1. Oat AnirutMarch 25, 2025 at 1:36 PM

      Even though I feel okay now, I admit I’ve been through a lot. So, before using dating apps, it’s important to be prepared and make sure you can cut ties with anyone who shows red flags, without letting things drag on.

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  4. Keigo TominagaMarch 25, 2025 at 1:13 PM

    I think you have clear understanding yourself.

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    1. Oat AnirutMarch 25, 2025 at 1:38 PM

      Thank you. It’s probably because I talk to myself a lot, sometimes maybe too much. That’s why I’m trying really hard to talk to others more. Haha! 😂

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